Overcoming a Language Barrier (6 Ways)

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Overcoming a language barrier with anyone can be frustrating and confusing. But having language barriers to communication with friends or family and feeling powerless can be even worse.

It’s not always that the friend or family doesn’t speak our language. In many English-speaking countries, overcoming a language barrier can happen with the languages we ourselves grew up speaking at home but have since forgotten.

Some common language barrier frustrations include:

  1. Trouble communicating with or speaking to grandparents as we age–either because their English has deteriorated or because our heritage languages never fully developed into bilingualism.
  2. Problems making friends in the workplace between non-immigrants who speak the dominant language (in our case, English) and immigrants who are still learning the dominant language.
  3. Frustration communicating with healthcare patients, clients, or customers in the workplace.
  4. Increased trouble staying in touch with friends abroad because of language deterioration.

Language barriers to communication can range from inconvenient (in the case of a cashier having to communicate a question with a customer) to devastating (in the case of communication barriers within a family).

Thankfully, there are a few big steps that anyone can take to overcome to break the language barrier between anyone in their lives.

Strategies in Overcoming a Language Barrier

1. Destroy of the myth that you are “bad at languages”

While it’s estimated that well over 50% of the world’s population is at least bilingual [source], it’s common in English speaking countries to hear that it’s simply impossible for someone to learn another language because they’re “bad at it”!

Here is proof that this is a myth: I myself, a person who speaks at least 4 languages fluently and another few at a conversational level, failed out of high school Spanish as I forgot my native language. I thought it would be impossible for me to ever relearn my Spanish or Polish, never mind any other language.

“You must just have had a gift this whole time!” says the unbelieving reader.

So is it just that every citizen of Luxembourg happens to have the language gift, the average person speaking 3 languages fluently? Or that all citizens of Catalunya are simply born with the gift of being naturally bilingual?

“They started as children!” the reader continues. “I’m an adult!”

You’re right, reader. You’re an adult who the system has failed.

But don’t lose hope: with good resources and some consistency, there are more and more studies that show that the adult learner actually has many advantages over the child learner. It might actually be easier to learn languages as adults than as children under the right circumstances.

This doesn’t mean that you must learn a new language to overcome a language barrier. It just means that if you wanted to, and had good instruction, you could.

2. Overcome the body language barrier

If learning a whole language looks impossible, don’t worry. An easier way to start overcoming the language barrier is simply by learning about body language.

Let’s play a game: I list a movement that the body makes, and you guess whether it’s cultural or universal. (Cultural means that only people where you’re from can understand it. Universal means any human ever, even if they grew up 3000 years ago on a different continent, can understand it.)

  1. Thumbs up
  2. Smiling
  3. Nodding your head
  4. Wrinkling your brow while frowning
  5. Waving hello
  6. Opening your eyes widely

The answer is that almost all specific movements we make to stand in for a word (such as shaking your head to mean “no”, giving the a-ok sign to mean “good”, waving to say “hello”) are culturally specific.

Three books about body language barrier on a black table with two decorative stonesHowever: emotional signals are thought to be universal.

Smiling to show you’re happy, wrinkling your brown while frowning to show you’re angry,  or opening your eyes widely to show you’re scared are 3 of the 7 universal expressions that anyone from any culture can understand.

In fact, understanding the differences between these two types of body language is the fastest way to break down a language barrier!

You can read more about the 7 Universal Facial Expressions here, but if you’ve ever tried to nod your head “yes” to a south-Asian coworker or accidentally made the a-ok sign to a French friend, you’ll understand that we don’t all use this signs to mean the same thing.

The books I recommend on the topic are:

  • Emotions Revealed, Second Edition: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life by Paul Ekman Ph.D. (the same author of the above study)

  • What Every BODY Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People by Joe Navarro (probably the most popular book on the subject)

3. Learn their personal love language

We communicate in many other ways that have nothing to do with language or even body language.

The Five Love Languages is a well-known pop psychology book that says every human has ways they express love. Makes sense, right?

Thing is, we may have very different ways of expressing our feelings.

There are 5 ways someone might express affection:

  • words of affirmation,
  • acts of service,
  • receiving gifts,
  • quality time,
  • physical touch.

[Source] Words of affirmation can be anything from sweet whispers to verbally congratulating someone on a work project. Acts of service might be helping them with errands, cooking for them, or even helping them with a DIY project. All 5 of these “love languages” are quite varied (and have many subcategories) but you can see the idea.

How you express affection and how someone else expresses affection may be very different

My personal love language is cooking for people. It didn’t dawn on me until discovering that there are other love languages that my friends might just want quality time, or that when someone asks me for help with a small thing they’re actually asking me to express that I care for them.

Once you’ve figured out your own love languages, try seeing how someone else acts to express their affection for you.

Did they get you a small gift? Help you carry something into a different room? Do they spam you with memes?

If you can find their love language, you can express how you feel about them as friends or family without ever using a word in any spoken language.

4. Learn some key phrases

“Language is the only thing worth knowing even poorly.”

Kato Lomb

If you don’t speak their language, a little effort can go a long way. You may not be able tell stories or ask for complicated favors in their language, but just learning even just a few phrases in their language can help make all communication easier. [source]

Words like thank you, you’re welcome, please, and happy birthday (if they can be translated directly into that language) can mean a great deal–even if the language you normally communicate with is English.

Why not just learn a few little things to show someone that you care, and that you really do want to have a conversation with them, even if you can’t right now?

To make sure you’re saying the phrase correctly, one of my favorite things to do is to simply go onto any hashtag for your language on Instagram or Twitter that would help you. If you’re looking at Spanish, you might try #Spanishteacher #Spanishclass #learningSpanish and try to find a Spanish teacher.

Don’t ask them to do the work for you, but come to them with a translation, explain the situation, and ask them to confirm your translation and pronunciation. If it takes them less than 15 seconds to help you, I’m sure they will.

Trying to communicate in Yucateca Maya, Malta, or something else that’s hard to find online?

Try a moment of humility and ask the person you’re trying to communicate with: “How can I say [word or phrase] in your language?” when the time is right.

Write it down and memorize it. Build yourself up a small dictionary of phrases or use an app like Anki to help yourself memorize them and–even if you can’t express complex thoughts–express the emotion behind what you’re trying to say.

A meme showing a caveman with two business men that reads "How it feels to be the only non-native speaker in the group"And if you already speak some of their language, but are still suffering from a language barrier, building phrases or scripts for specific situations is one of my favorite things to do.

With my French-speaking friends, I found out quickly how important food and talking about food was to them.

So I took a few private classes online just to talk about food and cooking, memorized new vocab, and practiced journaling about what I had eaten on weekends.

I came out with not only new individual words but huge phrases I robbed from Foodie YouTubers to express how liquoreux the wine was and talk about comme la crème au caramel était.

Simply learning whole sentences directly from native speakers instead of trying to reinvent them yourself in anticipation of certain situations can cut down immensely on language barriers to communication when you need to speak about something specific.

5. Try learning any language at all (even if it’s not theirs) so you learn how to speak clearly

A language meme where a small boy cheers about "having successfully learned all of the grammar and vocab" while a large computer looks down at home for having to "speak slowly this whole time"If you’re speaking in the dominant language (in the US or Canada, English) it can be hard to gauge whether or not a second language speaker can understand you.

Many second language learners (including myself) will often pretend we understand a sentence or even a whole conversation to put the other speaker at ease.

Unfortunately, this doesn’t help anyone.

If you’re impulse IS. TO. TALK. LIKE. THIS. I would like to offer you a better idea:

Learn any language whatsoever, even if it’s not theirs, just enough to understand some of it.

Speaking “clearly” has little to do with volume or sud.den.stops.be.tween.syla.buls. SPEAK ING LIKE THIS MAKES THE CON VER SA TION UN COM FORT ABLE FOR EVERY BODY.

Instead, here are some of my favorite tips for speaking clearly. I know this because this is how I really really appreciated people speaking to me in my other languages. (Especially when I was just getting started in those languages!)

  • Cut out all the slang. “Cool” is universal. But “mint”? “Royal?” Not so much. If the piece of slang you want to use might not be understood by someone from the 1920s, swap it out for the more standard language. Even if it feels artificial for a bit, it may help.
  • Keep your adjectives and adverbs simple. It’s not “pouring rain” but “raining really hard”. Instead of “wicked exciting” try “super exciting”. In place of “absurdly difficult” let’s go for “really really difficult”. Overly expressive language can often mean using words that your conversational partner hasn’t encountered before (or might not have memorized).
  • Pause between sentences, not words. They know how to speak the language, at least to some point, but their brain might need to catch up for a bit. This also gives them an opportunity to speak if they want, so you don’t feel like you’re monologuing.
  • Get excited to teach them. What makes languages beautiful is our ability to embellish sentences with our feelings and personality. If your communication partner is interested in improving their English, remind them that they can always ask for help without judgment. With time, it will become endlessly fun to explain why you just said “radical” even though no one has since used that since 1995.

And like I said: if you learn any language at all, you’ll learn naturally how to make your own English more clear to other people.

6. Learn their language (the ultimate way to break a language barrier)

Just because you can learn a language doesn’t mean you have to–especially if you’re battling feelings of guilt or shame because the language you’re trying to communicate with is your ancestor’s language.

But if you want to learn (or relearn) a language, this site is full of articles written with care about the languages we forgot and how to relearn them.

A few that you might find particularly helpful are:

I also invite you to follow me on YouTube. You’ll get regular updates, product reviews, and learn more about language learning in general.

Finally, is there any particular question you have that this article didn’t answer? Leave it in the comments below so I can make sure there’s nothing I missed and come back to expand it later!

Multilingual Marissa

I'm Marissa, and not only did I fail out of high school Spanish, but I also managed to forget my native language (Polish) in the process. After 10 years of establishing my career in the arts I decided to give language learning one last chance, and many years (and languages) later, I now help others online learn or relearn languages. I now speak English, Spanish, French, Catalan, Portuguese and am relearning Polish, my heritage language. I've also studied Italian, German, and other languages to low- or intermediate-levels for fun. If you want to relearn a language, I'd love to help!

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